Just about the best person I ever met in my life was a Welshman.
He was also a Tory1.
So, zero from two, as the Americans say.
He also, for very good reasons unrelated to the above, hated me with a refreshing sincerity from the first time we met.
Strangely though, when circumstances eventually made it unavoidable, he talked to me about things he had never spoken of to anyone else, not even his close family.
I say ‘not even’, but perhaps ‘especially not’ would be more accurate.
Mainly he told me about his wartime exploits.
That is a word he would never have used.
Mainly he told me about his wartime experiences.
He drove a tank in North Africa, and then across Northern France and into Germany following the June 6th landings of 1944.
He was hugely amused that, even when I met him, more than twenty years after the war had ended, he had never sat a driving test.
Most of his stories took place in the days, weeks and months following D-day.
I can remember him talking, his voice soft and still distinctly Welsh after over thirty years in the West of Scotland.
And his father had been a Scot.
Jack was born Welsh, and he would die Welsh.
* * *
There were no heroes in our war.
I never was a particularly religious man, but each night I thanked God I was still alive.
Each morning when I awoke, my sole ambition was to live through the day.
Every one of my mates felt the same.
Officers would try to generate urgency, enthusiasm and aggression, but we just plodded on.
Not that we were cowards, mind, when we had to fight, by God we fought.
But we didn’t want to fight.
We knew the Russians were pushing Gerry back from the East and, even better, we knew the Yanks were desperate to be first to Berlin.
We were delighted to just be in a supporting role.
Most of us had spent two or three years in the desert.
We didn’t go looking for trouble.
We were heading east across France, through country lanes.
High green hedges, fields with trees for drainage.
Word came through all the time ‘Press on, press on.’
We went as slowly as possible.
If you were in the lead tank, there was a rotation system, see, but when you were in the lead it was much worse.
Every farmhouse, every clump of trees, every corner of the road with a high hedge or too much bush to see round, was a potential ambush.
We would stop about 30 yards short.
The gunner would curse for a few moments.
‘Why bloody me? Why bloody me?’ but he would already be unlocking the hatch.
Well, I was the driver, I wasn’t going anywhere, the Sarge, he was the TC2, see, so he wasn’t getting out.
And the radio op, well, he had far too much stuff all round about him!
So he would run along the road and keek around the corner, make sure there was nothing there.
Then off we’d go a bit quicker for a while, then slow again for the next corner.
Sometimes we’d get a message through the radio that a farmhouse or a church was an enemy post.
Then we’d shell it, or sometimes we’d follow up close and blast it with the flame-thrower.
‘That’ll give old Gerry a right warm arse’, we’d laugh, ‘Teach him a bloody good lesson!’
We never thought of Gerry as a person.
He was the enemy, he wanted to kill you, you couldn’t think of him as being real, having a wife back home, having kids at school, wanting to go down the pub with his mates.
No, he was a faceless monster, you wouldn’t stay sane otherwise.
* * *
Long after the war was over he started to venture abroad again, but never, to my knowledge, revisited France.
He returned to Germany many times, and indeed spoke a smattering of the language.
He and Jean, his wife, typically stayed in Bed and Breakfast style accommodation, ensuring maximum face to face time with the locals.
He was without bitterness at any level, having always understood the basic truth of war, that the side you fought for was never a matter of choice, just an accident of birth.
He knew that ‘Gerry’ was a person just like him, with a wife, maybe a son on the way, who just wanted to go home, have a night down the pub, sleep in his own bed.
And not die.
Jack did go home after the war and became father to a son and a daughter, who eventually also had a son and a daughter.
His grandchildren called him ‘The Yorkie3 Man’ because of his practice of having a supply of chocolate bars stored about the house. They loved him for his gentleness and patience, his tolerance and his understanding.
Almost 30 years after his death, my wife and children still miss him.
So do I.
1 Tory – supporter of the Conservative Party, Britain’s major right wing political party
2 TC – Tank Commander
3 Yorkie – a chocolate bar popular at that time
Fascinating story. So much of war has a strange mundanity to it, routines that have to be followed and so on, the kind of thing your Yorkie man did with his tank crew that nine out of ten times would go smoothly, and then the tenth time comes. Great writing and a great flavour of the man through his words
Thank you, Lynn, this is among my favourites of my own writing, probably because most of the words are his.
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It’s a little insight into a world most of us can’t even imagine. Really interesting C
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Very touching and respectful tribute you wrote. These soldiers should never be forgotten and always remembered,
My father was in the war as a very young man, he had to go instead of studying. He also went to Africa with Rommel ( being German) and he was very happy when he became a POW and could pick oranges in America. He does not like to talk about it either as he was a pacifist in his whole being. – My grandad was in the first world war and kept a diary, which is fascinating but also rather horrible, it is similar as what you wrote above. He lost his leg as a 21 year old on his birthday standing next to him his fiancee. His birthday was yesterday he would have been 119! They were all heroes in my eyes! I love to remember him.
A very touching account. You tell it so well. How unfortunate that it has to be told at all.
Thank you, Meems, you are of course right, as always. But some stories need to be told and some people deserve to be remembered.
Of course. I did not mean that it should not be told. Hopefully the war stories will some day not be what we remember some for because there will be no war stories to tell.
This story of your father-in-law is a moving one. To keep so deeply inside his memories of his experiences speaks of the human spirit within each of us. That he shared these stories with you was a need to pass on, as he could, the essence of his experience.without the depth of the emotion that must have been felt during those times. I’m guessing he shared with you because he knew you’d comprehend what he didn’t say. Thank you. An excellent example of the human experience and how we cope with that which is beyond our emotional capability to accept, Most sincerely, Penny.
Thank you, Penny, your thoughtful comments are appreciated.
Your welcome my special friend.
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How very kind of you, Rebecca, I will suss this later.
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It is so difficult for me to get my head around sending innocent young men, children really, off to fight in wars. Heroes they all are, although war feels so senseless to me. Your friend does sound like a remarkable man. Cherish those memories of him.
Most of us struggle to comprehend this, LuAnn. Sadly, there are still those who see it as a way to make fortunes regardless of the human cost.
My grandpa rarely spoke about his war experiences and those few tales he did tell me definitely contributed to the kind, tolerant, gentle humanitarian that he was. He was only 18 when he went to war – something I never expect my own children to be drafted into. Yer man there sounds like a diamond. Remember him well, dear friend.
You are right, M, he was an absolute gem of a man, who is fondly remembered..